I have something to admit…I joined a Crossfit Gym.
Everyone knows that the first rule of joining a CrossFit Gym is that you have to talk about CrossFit. I’ve been doing my best to make sure I don’t become “that guy” but here I am writing about it.
CrossFit is – well, you know- is pretty intense. It’s a competition between its members, and I’m not the biggest one for competition because I rarely win.
Instead, I just make something up about how I’ll go at my pace, but deep down I know it’s because I’ll never get that #1 on the leaderboard.
Just the other day, we had an activity that we had to complete within a span of 24 minutes. It was a mix of running, lifting, and jump rope, and we had to repeat it five times. When the clock buzzer goes off, all the athletes zoomed out the door. We all were pretty equal at first, but that only lasted two minutes. Everyone pulled ahead, and I was fumbling to catch up with them.
I think a lot of us feel that way don’t we? Life has this nagging feeling that others are always making more progress than we are, and we feel like we’re all trying to catch up. Maybe you look at all your friends who are starting families, and here you are alone on a Friday night.
Or maybe you see your co-worker get promoted, and you’ve been at the same job for years now. It’s not that your not trying or you’re slacking off, in fact, you’re attempting to do everything right. You’re making good choices. You’re working into the wee hours of the night but for some reason it still isn’t enough.
The hard truth is, sometimes people will advance further than you will. Guess what…that’s ok.
Don’t hold it against those people who catch a break and get hired on to a new position. Don’t hold a grudge towards that girl because her parents paid for her education. Don’t be jealous of their published book when you know your book is so much better.
Don’t fight that, because that’s not healthy. It’s time just to let it go.
Let go of that constant need to compare yourself to others.
Comparison leads down a dark road of constantly never being good enough and it’s a terrible, terrible lonely road.
I was on my 4th lap out of 5 when I noticed everyone in the entire class finished a while ago. I trotted into the gym to finish up my Double Unders and with my head down headed back out the door to continue my run. That’s when I heard the second pair of footsteps. I looked over and trotting right next to me was my coach, Richard.
He muttered “Pick it up,” and as if I had a choice, my body decided to run faster. We both ran the last 400 meters, and I couldn’t have done it without that little push. That’s what I love about being a part of a program like this. Where I thought I had reached my limit, my community encouraged me to keep going.
If you feel like you’re behind, just know your not, and even if you are behind there’s someone out there that will trot beside you, to push you, to encourage you.
You’re not alone.
May you realize that you are where you are supposed to be and that this constant comparison of one another is for the birds. When you feel that constant pressure to be more than what you are, just stop. Just stop, and trot along. Eventually someone will say “Pick it up,” and you’ll do just that.
What things do you keep comparing yourself to?